RADICAL FORGIVENESS .. thanks to Jonathan Quail of Lifebuild
UNTIL WE RELEASE OUR TIES TO PAST TRAUMAS AND NEGATIVE EVENTS AND PEOPLE, WE DO NOT HEAL.
It is THE most powerful healing thing you can do for yourself
Follow this simple but effective 10 step process and be amazed at the results in your life. Do this over and over for all you need to forgive until all is released
10-STEP QUANTUM / RADICAL FORGIVENESS PROCESS
This process is profoundly effective in releasing any judgemental, fear-based thoughts and emotions about people and situations in your life, so that you see only the Divine perfection in everything and the opportunity to grow into an awareness of perfect Love that everything presents. After all, if life and the world are all an illusory dream, nothing that happens in this dream can be of the slightest consequence and affect your perfect inner peace and awareness of Love in any way, so there is absolutely nothing to fear, no matter what may appear to be happening in the dream. This freedom from fear allows you to play the game of human life we are all playing consciously or unconsciously while abiding in the timeless state of Love that is who and what you truly are, which is being in the world, but not of the world.
The quantum or radical forgiveness process, with explanatory notes, follows below:
1. Acknowledge the Negative Thoughts and Emotions About a Situation
Bring to mind the thoughts about the situation and / or person and acknowledge that they are disturbing your inner peace. Also recognise the pay-off you get from these negative thoughts and emotions, i.e. that they feed your ego, stop you having to work to change yourself and keep you trapped in a ’comfort zone’. This step is essential to start the healing process, because denial of negative thoughts and emotions leads to repression and suppression of them, which means you are not consciously aware of the thoughts and emotions and cannot move to step 2 of the process.
2. Be Aware
Be fully present and aware of these thoughts, remaining somewhat detached and not letting yourself react emotionally to the thoughts so you don’t sabotage this process. See yourself as separate from the thoughts and emotions you are observing in the mind of the person you thought was you previously. This is the beginning of the full realisation you will one day have that you are not really that person at all. Breathing deeply through your nose and raising your eyes to look up while you do this step will help you to keep your mind clear and remain aware of your thoughts without involving yourself emotionally in them.
3. Remember it’s an Illusion
Remind yourself that the world and your changing perception of it is an illusion, a dream created by your egoic mind to enslave and imprison you that is not real and that has never really happened.
4. It’s your Illusion or Projection
Moreover, remind yourself that it’s all your projection, even if it appears to be outside and independent of you, because there is only one mind that is dreaming the dream of the universe and the life in it. Whatever someone appears to be doing to you, you are in fact doing to yourself out of your own unconscious guilt that you have projected out into the illusion and manifested in the form of the situation and person who appears to be causing you pain to punish you. It is our projection that makes our perception of the world, and nothing else, which is another way of saying that you create your reality in every moment.
5. Have Compassion
Be compassionate towards yourself and all others involved in the situation, knowing that you and they are doing the best they can in their current state of consciousness and all unconscious, unloving behaviour happens because people do not feel loved, and is in fact a cry for help, so you and any other people involved in the situation need your love, rather than your judgment, in order to heal and become whole or ‘holy’ again.
6. Feel the Emotion
Feel the emotions evoked by the thoughts you brought up in step 1 fully, experiencing all the pain and unpleasantness of the emotions briefly while remaining very aware and not allowing the emotions to trigger more negative thoughts or emotions.
7. Surrender the Pain
Decide that you do not want this painful, negative feeling inside of you to disturb your inner peace and cloud the awareness of your true Self ever again, and just let it go by letting go of all the effort it takes to hold on to these thoughts and emotions. Breathe in deeply and then exhale fully as you do this, visualising light flowing into you as you inhale and all the dark energy of the thoughts and emotions leaving you as you exhale. Allow yourself to revel in the peaceful sense of relief and freedom that you will feel as you release the toxic emotions that have kept you imprisoned for so long.
8. Realise the Perfection
See the Divine perfection in the situation in that it has brought your own unconscious guilt in your subconscious mind that may have remained buried through your suppression of it to the surface so that it can be released and you can be healed and become aware again of the perfect peace and love within you that are your true and Divine nature.
9. Be Grateful
Thank the person or people involved and the entire situation for being your teacher and for giving you the gift of bringing your own negative thoughts and emotions to your attention so you can release them and be free of your misperception of separation and realise your oneness with God.
10. Forgive and Release Completely
Say to yourself that you have totally forgiven the whole situation, the people involved in the situation and yourself for all your thoughts, words and actions related to the situation, that it has been dissolved into the nothingness it always was and you and everyone else involved has been healed through your forgiveness. Say to yourself as an affirmation of this: “I forgive and I am forgiven completely. All is forgiven and released. We are all One.”
This radical forgiveness process is based on the principles covered in detail in A Course in Miracles published by the Course in Miracles Society and the Foundation for Inner Peace.